Redressing the rules

So here’s the thing, I’m quite into self-help and personal development. I find it fascinating to learn about the different techniques and seeing what I think makes sense and what I want to try and seeing the effects it has in my own life. There was a long period when I swore down that listening to this twice a day for a month would change your life and I still listen to it occasionally when I feel the need for an extra boost of confidence or assurances that I’m on the right path. Summa sumarum, I’m a bit of a crazy hippie, but shh, don’t tell anyone.

Anyway, the last few months but particularly the last few weeks have been full of a lot of emotional ups and downs for me and so I’m knuckling down and doing a lot more work on myself just now. Part of this involves writing, for myself, a lot of what’s going on inside my head and seeing what I notice. It certainly seems to be true that potential romantic situations are something of a trigger for my bad times, and this is obviously something that needs addressed. What does that mean? Well, it means more clarity, I think. Being clear that encounters I have with certain people, at this time in my life, are only about sex. I’m sure you’ve all read the rules of casual sex and I’m fairly familiar with them too but I think now is the time to become more closely acquainted with them and add a few rules of my own into the mix, just for me, because if I want to keep having casual sex – and believe me, I do, it’s my only exercise and hobby – I need to be taking emotional precautions just like I need to use protection. So, then, for a while at least:

  1. No surnames (to avoid potential misguided facebook stalking)
  2. No swapping phone numbers after going home with someone from a club
  3. No dates, be it coffee to apologise for punching you in the face or drinks to tempt you into bed
  4. As little personal info as possible

So yeah, there we are, that’s where I’m at just now. Let’s see how this goes and if it makes a blind bit of difference, though I suspect it actually will.

  1. #1 by kittymama on December 6, 2012 - 12:22 pm

    Have you ever tried the “foreigner” evening? Makes all the above much easier to do. Pretend you’re a tourist and only here for 24 hours. Make up a name, the weirder the better. Plus you can pretend you do any job. i like being a pilot!

    • #2 by sexwithdexxx on December 6, 2012 - 7:19 pm

      I was thinking about that actually, that and flying kites at night… In a town this small it’s probably not going to work very well but when I’m in cities it’s gonna happen!

  2. #3 by kittymama on December 6, 2012 - 12:25 pm

    I just remembered the last time we were out together and bumped into those people i had told i was a property manager! Lol! How do people remember this shit years later?

    • #4 by sexwithdexxx on December 6, 2012 - 7:19 pm

      Oh god yeah that woman who wanted you to get a flat for her son?. That was insane. You leave an impression on people, clearly!

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