Archive for July, 2012
I say “the experts”, there’s only one person cited here but still. I saw this floating around tumblr today and thought it was worth sharing.
“A primary manifestation of biphobia is the denial of the very existence of bisexual people, attributable to the fact that many cultures think in binary categories, with each category having its mutually exclusive opposite. This is powerfully evident in the areas of sex and gender. Male and female, and heterosexuality and homosexuality are seen as “opposite categories.” Those whose sexual orientation defies simple labeling or those whose sex or gender is ambiguous may make us profoundly uncomfortable. Thus, bisexuals create discomfort and anxiety in others simply by the fact of our existence. We are pressured to remain silent, as our silence allows the dominant culture to exaggerate the differences between heterosexual and homosexual and to ignore the fact that human sexuality exists on a continuum. It is much less threatening to the dominant heterosexual culture to perpetuate the illusion that homosexuals are “that category, way over there,” very different from heterosexuals. If “they” are extremely different, heterosexuals do not have to confront the possibility of acknowledging same-sex attractions within themselves and possibly becoming “like them.” There is considerable anxiety in being forced to acknowledge that the “other” is not as different from you as you would like to pretend.”
–Robyn Ochs: Biphobia
I got a text from my friend Foxy last night: “Do you know a Greek guy called Achilles?”.
Er, no, don’t think so, why?
“I mentioned your blog to him and he says he thinks he slept with you years ago and you wrote about it. Might not be you. He’s gone now anyway.”
Oh right. I’ll consult my list and get back to you. Was he attractive?
“Yes, he was stunning. Used to do modelling. Looks a bit like Leandro Penna. Bisexual”.
Hm. Fairly sure I’ve never slept with a Greek and I would definitely remember sleeping with someone who looks like Leandro Penna. If this was you and you met Foxy at an engagement party last night, do get in touch!