I originally wanted to call this post “Dry Run” but according to Urban Dictionary that doesn’t mean what I thought it means, and I certainly don’t advocate anal sex without lube. So “Dry Spell” it is.
Urban Dictionary defines a dry spell as “to go for a period of time (usually longer than shorter) without something; sex, drugs, etc.” But it doesn’t say whether this is self-imposed, like celibacy (something which I’ll probably write about at a later date) or whether it’s just down to circumstance. Then again, I don’t think we can realistically put UD on the same level as Oxford or Webster or Paravia or Langenscheidt so we can forgive this somewhat inaccurate definition for now. (That said, it does define my name as “an excessevily boyant boy who shaves his legs and wears gold hot pants” with the secondary meaning of “a person who has a brilliant personality and full of confidence. Absolutely gorgeous and more than likely someone who is definitely perfect and amazing” so maybe we shouldn’t judge it too harshly).
Anyway, as some of you might have noticed, I’m going through a bit of a dry spell just now. It’s been over two weeks since I last had sex, which isn’t too bad in the grand scheme of things, but it’s certainly not fun, nor does it make for good blogging, which is why we’re all here after all. (One friend did advise me to “just shag anyone – as long as you can make a funny story out of it!”. But I do have standards, honest.) What causes a dry spell? It can be a lot of things – exams in the way of your nights out, lack of attractive people you see when you do go out, the person you actually want being at work when you assumed they’d be around, etc. (You know who you are). Sometimes you just don’t feel it.
So what am I going to do about this, then? I have a few ideas, as it happens. I want to break out of the bubble I’ve fallen into since the end of the summer and coming back to my country, of the same club, frequented by the same people, every week, sometimes twice a week. There’s a few other places I seldom go to where they get quite a different crowd, and other places I’ve never been to but which I assume must get a different one again. A close friend and I have been meaning to check them out properly for a while now, so why not give it a go?
I’m sure a lot of you out there have gone through similar stuff – so leave me a comment or two! How did you break the cycle? Was it something you made an effort to do? Is it something you’ve never had happen to you at all? Let us read your thoughts and I’ll do a follow-up post with a few of the best or most relevant comments, once this particular dry spell is over.
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